There are many areas of our life where we can feel unfulfilled: at work, in our relationships, with the way we manage our time, with our material environment, with the way we look, with the way the world goes etc… Often, our first reaction is to look outside for solutions: change job or partner, go on a diet or use time saving apps, criticise this or that. All things that are outside of us. Yet, lack of fulfilment is something that happens at the heart of ourselves. It is a sensation, which is emanating from a lack of correlation between who we are in depth and the way we live our life or we see ourselves. Who are we in depth? Well, we are values, aspirations and dreams, a vision of what is
10 Tips on how to improve your relationship with yourself Last Episode: Tips 9 and 10! Tip 9: I shall nurture myself Nurturing ourselves is something often misunderstood. It is not about treating ourselves with something that just feels nice. Of course it must feel nice but it must be much more than that. It must serve our growth. For this reason, I like the expression of “Life-giving Connections” as offered by the PRH School. A life-giving connection happens when we do something where we feel fully ourselves, we feel energised, and even connected with more than just ourselves. These connections typically happen when we: Spend some quality time with someone we like and who matters to us Spen
10 Tips on how to improve your relationship with yourself Episode 4: Tips 7 and 8! Tip 7: I shall see myself the way I really am Having a healthy and up to date self-image is one of the most difficult things to achieve. Sometimes we see ourselves better than we are and it makes us being the slaves of that ideal. When we have this type of self-image (called over-rated self-image), the first difficulty is simply to recognise we have it! Sometimes we can't cut ourselves any slack and we put ourselves down, we minimise our progress, we doubt ourselves etc... This is called a negative self-image. It is very common to have both of them depending on areas of our lives. Why is it so important to see
10 Tips on how to improve your relationship with yourself Episode 3: Tips 5 and 6! Tip 5: I shall stand up for myself We often think standing up for ourselves means “in front of someone”. This is true but doesn’t cover the whole meaning of this expression. This is because standing up for myself is first of all a decision made “in front of myself” where I decide to dare to be fully myself. What do I mean by this? We spend our life making decisions: big decisions, small daily decisions. For each of these decisions, we can abide by what society tells us we should do, or by what our own principles tell us we should do OR by what our DEEP CONSCIENCE tell us we should do. Our deep conscience takes
10 Tips on how to improve your relationship with yourself Episode 2: Tips 3 and 4! Tip 3: I shall take responsibility for my happiness This tip is a big one and a tough one! It is big because as long as we don’t fully take responsibility for our life, we cannot be truly happy. It is tough for 2 reasons: - First, because it is hard to admit to ourselves that, well, we spend a lot of time trying to prove ourselves right, convincing others we are good people, relying on others to make us happy or blaming others or life when we are not. It takes a lot of compassion and humility to acknowledge that’s the way we really are. However, it is Oh So worth it! Because as soon as we decide “I am the one
