Often with family and friends we say “yes” and agree to do things when actually we’d like to say no. Why do we do this?
It’s so easy get caught up doing more than we are really prepared to do, just to please our loved ones and keep peace. We end up running around, going places that don’t make us feel good, being late, and get exhausted … even a bit resentful at times.
So what is at stake here and how can we move away from saying “yes” when we really want to say “no”?
Common reasons we do this include things like:
To avoid the discomfort of how others might react
To gain appreciation and love
Wanting to be recognised and valued
Fearing being judged
The truth is that none of us like to have someone say no to us, but their courage also often inspires respect because that person is being true to themselves.
Saying no is not easy but that does not mean we should avoid it because it is key to our true freedom.
Knowing how to say no with compassion and self-confidence helps, but this is not something we tend to get taught growing up.
If you feel that you need some support with creating inner stability so you can stand in your own power and be true to yourself then this is something I’d love to help you with.